The smile is the start
Getting women smiling back at you upon approaching is important. In fact, it's critical. First impressions make or break you, and it happens in a split second.
So yes it's a big deal but no, it's not hard... once you get the hang of it.
#1 Approach with the outcome in mind.
Simple. Begin with the end in mind, which is getting her to smile - duh! More specifically, imagine how she'll light up when you start interacting with her.
Stay focused on the positive outcome of having her respond positively to you, and it'll soon become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
#2 Begin by smiling yourself.
It's our natural instinct to smile back at people who smile at us. Smiling puts us in a better mood and help get us out of our heads. Smile, then take a deep breath - get some oxygen into those lungs to clear your mind!
Most importantly, smiling gets your energy up, and she can feel your positive vibe when you're "stepping to the plate" so to speak.
#3 Start small.
Say you're complete new to cold approaching - then start small and work your way up. Begin by smiling at women that pass your way. This can be at work, on the street or in the cafe. Get in the habit of making some eye contact and exchanging a smile.
Once that happens on a regular basis, then you're wired your brain to smile and get her to smile back at you. You can do this without even approaching her!
#4 Focus in and don't let go.
Our minds love to drift. We analyze, worry and daydream in our minds constantly. The chatter turns up especially when we take ourselves out of the comfort zone. We start worrying about the outcome, how we may get rejected, and all the other what if's.
So focus in and don't let go. It takes practice, and it takes patience. Think about how she'll light up, and focus on the one thing you're going to open with. Yes, one thing - not the next thing to say or the one after that but what you'll initially open the conversation with.
#5 Keep momentum
The path to game mastery lies in incremental improvement. Learn to crawl, then stand, then walk - that sort of thing. So begin by smiling at women, then doing it by giving them a compliment.
One of my favorites is complimenting them on a particular accessories. Women love this become you took the time to notice. It's sincere, and it's easy to do.
Once you're comfortable approaching, then build on that first impression and roll into conversation. Again, simple does the trick. Comment on the obvious like weather, what you're up to, where you're headed - engage her in the conversation and ask her as well. And voila - you've just struck up a conversation with a cute girl!
1. Practice smiling at women passing by at work, in the street, etc.
2. Smile, take a breath, then approach with a sincere compliment.
3. Keep conversation moving by commenting on simple things and engaging her to respond.