Find Your Niche Then Exploit It

Being in the right place at the right time can certainly help you achieve the results you want in your dating life. Many guys wonder where all the women are, and the answer is that they're everywhere.

It comes down to finding the ones that make a fit for you or as women would say, "finding a guy who's my type".

One way to do that is finding your niche - it's way easier than you think.

First off, which activities do you enjoy doing the most? And of those, which has the highest potential to meet women?

Niches exist where we'd least expect to find them - say if you're in college and spend a large amount of time studying in the library, then why not chat up the cute girl next to you or while you're grabbing coffee at the cafe?

College itself is a niche altogether - if I only knew then what I know now!

Or say you enjoy a particular outdoor activity like hiking, then join a meetup group to explore the great outdoors with. Meet new people, grow your social circle - focus on exploiting the niche and the women will begin to surface.

Finding your niche often means going that extra step - so rather than just studying in the college library, chat up people in the cafe or join a study group. And rather than hike alone, find a group to go with using meetup or facebook - the internet is here help people connect with others, not isolate us which it's help us do in some ways, ironically.

Once you've found a niche you're interested in growing, spend the time and energy in growing it first - focus on bringing in the women later. Grow relationships with others around that activity and understand the dynamics within the circle you're trying to grow.

After you've developed relationships with the people in your circle, then start bringing in new people or finding others in that group. This is not only a way to meet more women but to meet new friends as well.

What would you do to find new friends if you moved to a new city?

You would do something similar - so just as friends in a new city would be very useful (and fun), well then so would finding women in new social circles.

But instead of a new geographical location, we're looking within a new social group. The only risk here is taking initiative and trying something new. Yes, it requires getting off our best intentions and connecting with others.

By focusing our energy on building a new group and bringing others in, we contribute value and build better social networks - all good things while we meet and interact with women.