Social Skills & Dating

I hope all of you are doing well and enjoying the autumn season - there's no snow or Macy's Day Parade, but we still carve up one mean turkey for Thanksgiving.

A couple of announcements before we jump in:  

1. Site name: After some thought, I find that social skills better describes what I am working on these days and wish to share with the world (and yes, you!). So look for my thoughts and ideas on improving life through better relationships, of all kinds.

2. Thanks to Penelope Trunk, Brazen Careerist: I wish to thank Penelope for mentioning me in her website in her post on why men should give women flowers. It's an excellent post, and I've added her to the list of people I follow (link to the right).

3. Happy Thanksgiving!: I hope all of you have a wonderful holiday - true, it's an American holiday but the notion of giving thanks for all that we have, no matter where we're at in life, is a universal one.

It may not seem like a big deal, but the social skills name change is a big one for me. It's been a long time coming, but I've reached a point in my life where balance is the best path to personal development.

Focusing narrowly on any particular area of life throws everything else off, just a little bit. Of course some areas are more important others (say, family & career over cool things I enjoy doing), and some work projects take more time but balance out with time to unwind.

In the end though, it all works out.

I come back to this whenever I over-analyze a situation - things work out in the end if I let it happen rather than make it happen.

As I was chatting with a friend recently, goals in life happen more easily and with less effort if we allow them to happen.

So how does this apply to dating? I think the applications are obvious - having a larger perspective on things and striking a balance with other areas of life make the process much more fulfilling.

Most of my content is general in nature without specific techniques because relationships can't be managed that way. People change over time, and we relate better with others by using our intuition rather than our logic.

Finally, the most liberating thing about a holistic approach to relationships is being able to yourself with everyone. There's no barrier to expressing yourself, because it's who you are all the time.

No games, no lies, no gimmicks - just an honest, open approach to life.